WHY PICTURE BOOKS MATTER (part 4): Feelings of Loss
One of the most persistent questions I have had over the years is what to tell children when a loved one dies. We find it really difficult to talk to children about death. Generally speaking, we are afraid. There are so many unknowns. What if we say the wrong thing? What if we give them "ideas" that will upset or frighten them? How do we explain it? How do we help them understand the feelings that come with this? Our children tend to take their cues from the adults around them. How we deal with death speaks volumes to children about how they should deal with it. The question of explaining death is actually fairly straight-forward. The person who was there simply isn't anymore. Children can accept the reality of death far easier than we can when we've grown. But the multitude of emotions are more difficult. And how we move forward...well, that's another thing all together. It is the effect of loss on the child and on those around them; those that are left behind t